When people get married, have kids, get divorced, and then move on to date or marry other people…sometimes things can get messy.
The ex is a bit of a player. He’s been dating the same two women on and off for years, sometimes one at a time, sometimes both together. Sometimes they know, and sometimes they don’t.
My kids don’t know EVERYTHING about his private life, because it’s private. When they aren’t with him, his actions are his own business. I thought.
Until he broke up with the “nice” lady, and blocked her number….in turn driving her crazy and causing her to reach out. TO MY KIDS.
And my 13 year old came down in tears, from her “goodbye” text message that started out so sweet, and ended with “by the way, your dad is dating *name of “bad” lady* again and I know you don’t like her….have a good life”
Can I say that I felt the crazy wake up inside of me???
On one hand I feel for this lady, she always did seem to be on the short end of the stick. But, that was a low blow. You don’t use someone’s child to keep the drama alive. I know she must be so hurt, and angry, and not thinking clearly.
Not my kids problem.
So I got her number, and I texted her. Believe it or not, I was not horrible.
But I did tell her to please not contact my kids, and they would be blocking her number.
I’m really proud of myself for being a grown up, because inside I still want to smack her for making my son cry, for manipulating him in order to get back at his father.
Guess what? I got a text back….. a profuse apology and acknowledgment of how awesome my kids are….
Yes. They are awesome. I hope awesome enough to learn from the mistakes of their parents, they sure seem to have more sense than us sometimes.
I love how you handled this. Totally cool. Thanks for sharing!
Thanks! I had to do something to purge the emotions….so better to blog than start a war!
My gawd people are so insane!!! Good for you for being the bigger person 🙂
thanks!!! I’m really proud of myself too…totally not my norm 🙂