I came across a post recently that reminded me of how precarious our kids understanding of things like safety, danger, and strangers can be. You can find the post I’m talking about here. Go check it out, I’ll wait……..
Now, how do you think your kids would act in a stranger simulation???
I started talking about “stranger danger” as early as possible with the kids. It is one of those lurking fears we mothers have…
Right now, Sammy is 5, and we’ve been tossing scenarios back and forth with him for years now. We’ve talked about how his body is HIS body, and no one is allowed to touch it. We talk about strangers, and even people who aren’t strangers possibly making him feel uncomfortable. Always harping on the basics….
What do you do if someone tries to grab you?
His answer usually includes some form of ninja death chop….but then he remembers that he should really run away, screaming for help.
What do you do if someone DOES grab you?
Scream more, kick, bite, cry-loudly-, fight and struggle!!!
What do you do if a really nice little lady comes by to show you her cute puppy?
Run away. NEVER TOUCH THE PUPPY.
Even scenarios with neighbors or friends… if it doesn’t feel right…. it’s ok to NOT do it, and TELL TELL TELL!!!!!
We talk about it a LOT.
So… with that in mind……….
One day about 3 months ago, I was upstairs with the youngest. Sammy is downstairs, and the doorbell rings.
(I don’t hear it)
I happen to come downstairs right after, and find two young men standing in my foyer. Sammy had let them in.
Thankfully, they were not killers. (as far as I know)
Once they left, I didn’t yell at Sammy. I sat him down, and started talking about strangers. Why it could have been VERY dangerous to let those guys in. Why he should NEVER answer the door (which he already knew…I thought).
He listened to my impassioned lecture, letting me calm down before he responds.
“But mom, they weren’t strangers….. they were GUYS!”